If You're Desperate for Love, Stay at Home!

[kirei_na_me]

You got that right. Duo is the ****!

Oh, and Damicci, you're not so bad yourself.

[Elizabeth]

It's media that creates the 1st group within there lies the problem. You hardly see the avg Japanese women in media it's only what is appealing that is mostly shown. We mind as well group them into the superficial category because it's basically the same principal.

Not that Japanese people themselves are ever to blame by encouraging their mates to be superficial, right ? Well, Damicci's girlfriend my be different... I only know in my case, he can be a little too encouraging of my cute and funny side, not that I'm usually very tempted to try to resist it either.... . The serious and childlike sides to him usually balance out pretty well.

[HomicidalMouse]

You know women have feelings too, no matter what race they are. Some of you guys talk about them as if you're picking the prize cow from a herd.

[Damicci]

Not that Japanese people themselves are ever to blame by encouraging their mates to be superficial, right ? Well, Damicci's girlfriend my be different... I only know in my case, he can be a little too encouraging of my cute and funny side, not that I'm usually very tempted to try to resist it either.... . The serious and childlike sides to him usually balance out pretty well.

I don't think whether it IS Japan's fault or not is the factor. It's more or less believing what you see. We encourage are people to be superficial too. And every japanese person that wants to date a foreigner b/c of some movie is just as guilty of it as all these hot in pants guys wanting some "submissive, child looking asian woman" I am not saying that is the case for all guys but I am sure that is a large reason why japanese women are "in demand". I have been with my girl for 4 years now. I invented the "asian chic craze" lol j/k
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[Damicci]

You got that right. Duo is the ****!

Oh, and Damicci, you're not so bad yourself.

:winklove:

[Elizabeth]

I don't think whether it IS Japan's fault or not is the factor. It's more or less believing what you see. We encourage are people to be superficial too. And every japanese person that wants to date a foreigner b/c of some movie is just as guilty of it as all these hot in pants guys wanting some "submissive, child looking asian woman" I am not saying that is the case for all guys but I am sure that is a large reason why japanese women are "in demand". I have been with my girl for 4 years now. I invented the "asian chic craze" lol j/k
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Besides these extreme cases, though, I think can be really difficult to define 'superficial' in relation to the Japanese....sometimes it appears like almost everything they do is that way and sometimes their whole way of being is a genuine concern and desire for friendship. I don't know, just that its a losing battle to analyze it too much in this thread.

[Glenn]

You know women have feelings too, no matter what race they are. Some of you guys talk about them as if you're picking the prize cow from a herd.

Don't worry. Women do the same thing with men.

[Doc]

Don't worry. Women do the same thing with men.

Talking from experience Glenn? ;)

Doc

[Glenn]

Yes, actually. I've heard women talk about men the same way that men talk about women. It's a meat market either way.

[HomicidalMouse]

Women think men are b*st*rds. I know this cus i was eating lunch yesterday with some friends, minding my own business and one of the girls suddenly turned to me and said "all you men are b*st*rds", and the other girls agreed

[Damicci]

You should have slapped her. (Keep your pimp hand strong...) I kid i kid. It goes both ways. Women are jsut as bad as men except they don't show it as much.
All you women are bastards. lol

[okaeri_man]

Don't worry. Women do the same thing with men.

oh you beat me to it. i was going to say the exact same thing

Women think men are b*st*rds. I know this cus i was eating lunch yesterday with some friends, minding my own business and one of the girls suddenly turned to me and said "all you men are b*st*rds", and the other girls agreed

well, your friends obviously haven't met me

[Doc]

Yes, actually. I've heard women talk about men the same way that men talk about women. It's a meat market either way.

This is the reason why I'm still a virgin.

Doc

[Duo]

You know what Duo, You are the ****! I didn't even think about that. That is a very good point. Which is why I say this topic is not a really good item for discussion. I honestly believe the 1st group will eventually see the light and grow into the 2nd group. It's media that creates the 1st group within there lies the problem. You hardly see the avg Japanese women in media it's only what is appealing that is mostly shown. We mind as well group them into the superficial category because it's basically the same principal.

hehe, thx, i try

But seriously though, i have even some friends that tell me they don't like asian girls, they are this and that, and they prefer that and this, but i just tell them that it don't matter cuz there are different kinds of girls in every ethnic group/race. So just as I feel that they are wrong, I also feel that liking only asian girls is not right, in an objective way. Nothing moral, just I feel having that kind of preference can't be good for you. So whenever I get into disagreemnents here I'm not trying to badmouth japanese/asian girls, i just wanna prove that essentially women are all the same, well not quite

But I think sometimes me doing that may annoy some people here, but whatever, this is a forum, opinions will clash, it's just important to keep it to a level of mutual respect and not go personal, a guideline that I myself have smuged a little at times, sorry about that , but thankfully we haven't had things get nasty yet, this is still a very nice forum with some very nice people so let's keep it that way

[Duo]

You got that right. Duo is the ****!

Oh, and Damicci, you're not so bad yourself.

thx kirei, we all know your great rep here, so compliments from you are always most defenetely ( btw i can never spell this damm word right ) appreciated

[kz_princess]

thx kirei, we all know your great rep here, so compliments from you are always most defenetely ( btw i can never spell this damm word right ) appreciated

its goes as follows: d e f i n i t e l y

[Duo]

its goes as follows: d e f i n i t e l y

thx kz_princess, if you ever need assistance, lemme know, i'd be happy to reciprocate ;)

[kz_princess]

thx kz_princess, if you ever need assistance, lemme know, i'd be happy to reciprocate ;)

think thoroughly before saying that, i'm really good at taking advantage of people's offers

[Chiaki_Kuriyama_Fan]

Finally this thread has died like a moose in mud!

[Brooker]

It'll be back. And, in a way, you kind of brought it back.

[nurizeko]

hey, if white boys gotta get some asian, and asian girls gotta get some whiteboy trophy, let them play their little games, its not our job to tell them who they can and cannot date.


either way though, think a good few times real hard before deciding to invest hard earned cash for a shallow japanese girl who wants you for the same reason you want her.
and dont play with the emotions of a sincere girl, it isnt big, it isnt clever, its being like the jerks who girls in the west constantly complain to you about, because your "just a friend", and it makes guys like me want to hurt you...

and if your painfully lonely and a virgin and it seems no end is in sight, forget it okay....girls dont like that desperate personality, they dont dig that blatantly obvious asian fetish.
just because your desperate, doesnt mean japan is anything like your rose tinted image of it, it really is just you, not society, not saying its hopeless, but try and just be FRIENDS with girls in your own country first, girls arnt some alien species, their wierd and odd at times, but their still technically human =P

also your failures are more to do with your view that existence is pointless without love, which makes you too clingy, just step back, and relize you dont need to validate your existance through the existance of another, love enriches life, it doesnt sustain it.

[mizer]

Hey, man, sometimes it's really depressing to be a white girl and think that loads of your fellow countrymen are lusting after Asian women! :/

I especially hate those blokes who think English women are obese, snobby and blonde (fake or otherwise). I'm English and I'm none of the above (at least, I don't think I'm a snob - if I am, I've no reason to be, lol).

[Jent]

:laughs: Reading this thread has been very amusing.

However, this has always kinda bothered me with my current boyfriend. He has calendars that are very large that he hangs on the wall of race queens and Japanese models. Which would be alright if that was all that he had. But he also has over a gig of space on his harddrive full of pictures of girls, such as Ann Poonkasem (not sure what nationality she is) and Chisato Morishita. I'm not.. jealous or anything, and I know that he loves me but I feel really weird when all he looks at is asian women. I'm the farthest thing from asian you will ever come across, blonde hair and blue eyes, and very pale skin. But he's oogling over something completely opposite of the way that I look. I've asked him why he always looks at asian girls and stuff and he says it's because they look cool. Okay..
I don't know, I'm not looking for advice or anything. It slightly bothers me sometimes though. Makes me feel like I don't live up to his standards or something, and that really don't help the self esteem!
Anyone else have little shrines of Japanese women? Just curious.

[Iron Chef]

Maybe it's just innocent fantasizing? We all go through phases (i'm still in my Jennifer Connelly phase atm but I digress). I wouldn't worry about it too much... at least until he asks you to dye your hair black, grow it long and straight, and only speak to him in Japanese. Then... you might have a problem. 8-p

[Jent]

:laughs: Okay, you're right. It just makes me feel weird sometimes.