Why do you love somebody???

[chelo]

konnichiwa!
I have a constant companion, he makes me smile, we shop together, we watch movies together and he even calls me everyday. I love him because he's always there for me, we even say i love you to each other but still he's not my boyfriend and i'm not sure if he already has a girlfriend.

My dilemma: Do we really love each other or we just enjoy each other's company.

magirawashii ne?

[Himura]

Hey chelo!
==> look in his eyes and you�ll know the answer...
-If you want a relationship, if you want him to be your boyfriend, tell it to him and ask for it... GO FOR IT!!!
(...but this is always a risk, because you could destroy the company you�ve had...decide what you want.... .)

[Rosie]

It could be both, dear chelo. But Himura has a point. If you are going to talk about it, think really carefully. There are risks involved.

[jeisan]

i think you both already know that answer to that. you are in a relationship with him. neither of you know how or when but it just happened and it just is that way now. its a beautiful thing you have and even more so because its unspoken. theres no real need to put a label on it.

loving each other and enjoying each others company go hand in hand. i'd be hard pressed to love someone if i didnt enjoy hanging out with them all the time. but you can kiss him and see how that goes if you havent already, if you have and all that stuff i dont think theres any reason to worry about it.

[Himura]

A friendship is wonderful... no doubt... but a real relationship can unite the positiv sites of both: friend and partner... and isn�t this real happyness? I don�t really know^^

[Sgt. Wang]

I love because I'm completely and totally fallen in love. I've had many girlfriends, but I find that in the end it was just physical attraction. I just need someone that actually keeps their personality around me instead of trying to impress me the whole time. I've lost many attractions to people for them being superficial.

But I have a best friend that I kinda like. It's a bit odd, but she actually stays real with me. Very good friend. Maybe something more.............................................. .............

[Himura]

...maybe? -you should, if you want, discover what�s up there ^^

[Picardo]

i dont know about love eighter, i�m just a 17 year old guy (virgin) 18 this november.
i dont know if i�m "in love" with my girlfriend, but i certenly do like her a lot. some of the reasons are that she is kind and rather good looking, and she is a good kisser ;)

[Himura]

well... if that is love?
but look into you, "listen to your heart" and you should know if you love her or not...

[Rosie]

Dear Picardo,

based on your feelings toward your girlfriend, I don't think it's love. No, not entirely. You just like her, and you may grow to love her. Maturity is a factor here. In that case, carry on wth the kissing but that's all you should do.

[Moonflower]

when you love someone, you accept everything about him/her...
I think it comes out of the blue most of the time...
if two people keep that feeling same time same way, they would be great together as bf/gf and the best friends...
I guess...

[KoranRi]

it's very easy to mix up love with infatuation. I've done it myself. But each time you grow a little and are a little closer to finding *real* love. Just remember that. All I have to say.

[maji]

hmmm right now i dont love someone as a partner. but ive few friends and some of them mean really a lot of me. most of them are good 10 years older (somehow i get along better with people who are older then me). we dont see each other daily but we know each other well. we phone often, visit at times, watch movies, she cooks mostly then and likes giving me lots of stuff for the flat me and friends live in (like tea and cooking-plates and whatever)... its just a relaxed and nice friendship.
but its not a material-based friendship, its jus that we know each other very well and like helping each other.
ah well... and i love my dog... but my dog lives at my family and i see it only once every half year and it seems to age far too fast. its now getting blind of age...

[Chipi]

Originally posted by Moonflower
when you love someone, you accept everything about him/her...
I think it comes out of the blue most of the time...
if two people keep that feeling same time same way, they would be great together as bf/gf and the best friends...
I guess...

What about when people change, have new hobbies, interests etc. That�s what�s happening to me and my boyfriend, and I actually don�t know if the reasons we fell in love count anymore.Does anyone else have experiences of the same kind?

I don�t know if we�re together just because we�re used to beeing so, and because we�re remembering the wonderful times we�ve had before. We have totally different goals etc.He�s so into wrestling, sports etc, and it takes so much of his time...and I can�t stand it...And, I�m in love with Japan, and that�s something he doesn�t understand.
�n a way I�m afraid to make an end to our relationship, because somehow I�m afraid for him...I don�t want to see him ending up alone...I�m so twisted ? ..:)

Sorry for this "psychological pouring", but I�d like to hear some opinions..

[Himura]

beeing a bit different is good...beeing too different will probably not last for a long time... and I know, the worst is when someone can�t understand your interests.... @ Chipi

[Rosie]

Think (only) about all the wonderful things about your guy, not the differences between you two, and all the problems will vanish (into the air)..poof! This may sound like loads of bull to you, dear Chipi. But believe me, I didn't cook this one up; it was told to me by a friend who has been married for a very, very long time.

[Dream Time]

I love somebody because I love somebody.

just that simple.

[Navi]

most people start liking some1 becuz of attraction or some shallow reason ><

[EscaFlowne]

My love for another is a deep connection that goes way beyond
material
sexual
need
want
type things.

I can't explain and its only happend twice......But for the moment due to problems [ with my "was" relationship ] i refuse to love!

"Love is blind
and no friend of mine"
-snoop dogg-

ooooo well might be off subject but sorry. meep!

[Ronin]

There are different types of love.
That "in love" feeling that wears off after awhile is a chemical response ( How I miss those Chemicals) The love that I have for my wife is one based off a choice to love even when we don't feel like loving.

[Mayura]

I'm not sure about this one...

I don't know whether I ever "loved" someone, maybe cared for that person a lot...

[Gaki]

If i said "I love you" at this age i would be lying.

[Chipi]

...have you guys ever experienced "love at first sight" ?...
I don�t mean just that you like someone�s good looks, but that you feel that somekind of strange and powerful feeling between the two of you.Do you believe in it?

I have...and once, very,very strongly. This person is one of the most important characters in my life, even though I wouldn�t want him to be that. I just can�t help it.. I fell completely in love with him for the first time I saw him, many years ago, and I still can�t forget him. Even though I try. It�s a sad part of my life, those few years I was really hooked up on him..

[silver angel]

Love and like are always confused and in most cases in high school it means practically nothing. I see couples that 'love' each other but in truth they just want each other for compeletly different reasons. I'm only 16 and have never fallen in love. I have really liked some guys before, but I've never found the chance for real love. But from what my parents tell me, I have all the time in the world for that....I hope that they're right. Most guys I end up liking a lot usually ignore me and go for my friends...who I end up sacrificing my feeling for to hook them up. Oh well better luck next time sil chan! +_+.....

[Himura]

falling in love and falling in love can be different... love is different each time you get it...