Dutch Baka
FIGHTING FOR JPOP
I heard about Hikikomori a couple of years ago for the first time, not knowing the name, not knowing all the effect. just i know some people sit inside there room, and don?ft come out of it...
i will give some background information after my question:
how can it be, that a parent let her/his son stay in his room for months/years? are they crazy themselves? how is counselling in Japan? ( are there enough ways to get counselling? do people know they can get counselling? ) if u look at the future also in other countries, when pressure is rising for the younger generations ( you need to learn English when you are 4 years old so it would be good for later.. study hard.. get a good degree.... let children be children dammed!!!!!), how would this be in the future? and what would you do when your child/friend/beloved one have this?
what is your opinion about this?
1. Parents?( how can they let there child be in there room for such a long time sometimes)
2.counseling?(how is counseling in japan)
3. future ?( there may be 1 million hikikomori in Japan , how would this be in the future, whould it infect other country's to more then it is now... ?)
4. what would you do?(what would you do, if it was your son/daugther? beloved one, or friend?)
Background information:
Im looking forward to hear some opinions from some people here. i think this can be a serieus problem for the future....
Greetings Dutch baka ( aka dave..... :wave: )
i will give some background information after my question:
how can it be, that a parent let her/his son stay in his room for months/years? are they crazy themselves? how is counselling in Japan? ( are there enough ways to get counselling? do people know they can get counselling? ) if u look at the future also in other countries, when pressure is rising for the younger generations ( you need to learn English when you are 4 years old so it would be good for later.. study hard.. get a good degree.... let children be children dammed!!!!!), how would this be in the future? and what would you do when your child/friend/beloved one have this?
what is your opinion about this?
1. Parents?( how can they let there child be in there room for such a long time sometimes)
2.counseling?(how is counseling in japan)
3. future ?( there may be 1 million hikikomori in Japan , how would this be in the future, whould it infect other country's to more then it is now... ?)
4. what would you do?(what would you do, if it was your son/daugther? beloved one, or friend?)
Background information:
What is hikikomori:
Hikikomori (Japanese: ?Ђ??????? or ?????U??) are adolescents and young adults that feel overwhelmed by the Japanese society, feel unable to fulfil their expected social roles, and react with social withdrawal. Hikikomori often refuse to leave their parent's house, and may lock themselves in a single room for months or even years. According to some estimates there may be 1 million hikikomori in Japan, or one out of 10 young men. Most of them are male, and many of them are the eldest son.
reason of widthdrawing:the reasons for withdrawing in the room, house, is mainly pressure.. pressure in the Japanese society schools, work.. look at the hours they work, and they high level they need to get on school from parents. it start on young age sometimes ( as i said you need to learn English ... how can you be a child in this period?? possible?)
another reason is, being bullied (appearance, education, sports etc) this brings shame to the family.
symptoms
with feeling of pressure from the outside world, they lock them self up in there own room, parents house, other room. they close contact to the outside world, and sleep all day, play games, watch tv, or play computer games.. before the lock themselves up, the lose friends, get shy, become insecure and talk less.
parents
to have hikikomori in the family is a private thing, so not many people get to know about it. the mother most of the time need to take care of it, because dad goes to work and is busy. they wait for the child to come out himself, or seek counselling after a long time. most parents don?ft know what to do with it. An aggressive approach by the parents forcing the child back into society is usually not taken or only after a considerable waiting period.
the schools and social workers help with it, but leave it to the family itself most time, because its a family thing.
Effects on the hikikomori
by lose of social contact they lose there skills they need. they immerse themselves into fantasy worlds with manga, tv or computer games. As time passes, the hikikomori, lacking interpersonal stimulus, developmentally stagnates into routine behaviours of sleeping all day and staying up all night only to sneak out into the kitchen for food when the family is asleep. Eventually, hikikomori may abandon their diversions of books and TV and simply stare into space for hours at a time.
If the hikikomori finally - often after several years - re-emerges voluntarily or through the aid of a care worker, they must face the problem of lacking social skills and years of education that their peers already posses through normal daily interaction with society. Also making re-entry into society difficult for recovered hikikomori is the recent social stigma that has come to be attached to the condition due to mass media attention since 1998. The fear exists that others will discover their hikikomori past, and so they often feel uncertain around people, especially strangers, in how they should act. Also detrimental is the fact they lack a work history, making anything beyond menial labour jobs difficult to acquire.
Their fear of the social pressure and the inability to effect change in their situation may also turn into frustration or even anger— some hikikomori have even physically attacked their parents, though most of the time anger manifests in others ways such as nightly harassment by banging on walls while the rest of the family sleeps.
This hostility often arises when parents continue to exert pressure on the hikikomori to come out of their rooms after many months of isolation, despite the fact a status quo has been allowed to develop between the parents, usually the mother, and the hikikomori. This status quo occurs because parents passively allow their child to stay withdrawn and has many reasons but mostly centres on an amae relationship between mother and son, the fear and social stigma of the local community knowing the family has a hikikomori, and the simple notion that it is better to have the child in the house even in isolation than as a runaway.
It was initially argued in the mass media when hikikomori came into public spotlight in 2000 that the loss of a social frame of reference might also lead hikikomori to commit violent or criminal behaviours. However, it has been argued by hikikomori experts that ?etrue hikikomori?f are too socially withdrawn and timid to venture outside of their rooms, let alone venture outside the home and attack someone. If hikikomori physically attack anyone, it is usually confined to family members.
Part of the reason that hikikomori gained worldwide attention was the fact that the media attributed a number of high profile crimes to hikikomori. In 2000, a 17 year old labelled as a hikikomori by the press hijacked a bus and killed one passenger. In fact, it was discovered later that the hijacker was originally a hikikomori but his parents didn?ft know how to deal with him, so they admitted him to a mental hospital for two months of observation. Feeling betrayed by his parents, it was the period in the hospital that disintegrated the boy?fs self esteem and made him mentally unstable— the violence during the bus hijacking was directed at his mother by proxy. In the coming days, the media reported other extremely violent cases as perpetrated by hikikomori, such as one man who kidnapped a young girl and held her captive for nine years or a young man who killed 4 girls to re-enact scenes of his hentai manga. As a result of the media spotlight, a great social stigma of hikikomori being violent and mentally ill came to be attached to the condition that exists to this day.
Treatment
for the last couple of years a hikikomori support industry has sprung up in Japan, each with there own way of handling this. One approach suggests psychological help is needed for these isolated young people as many parents are overwhelmed with the problems of a hikikomori children whom they don?ft understand. The other approach to hikikomori treatment views the problem as one of socialization rather than mental illness. Instead of clinical treatment in a hospital, the hikikomori is removed from the original environment of the home into a shared living environment and encouraged to reintegrate into social groups through daily activities with other hikikomori who are already in various states of recovery; this approach shows the person that they are not alone in their condition and appears to be successful for most cases.
While there are a growing number of doctors and clinics specialized in helping hikikomori, many hikikomori and their parents still feel a lack of support for their problems on an institutional level and feel that society at large has been slow to react to the hikikomori crisis.
Worldwide
While total social withdrawal seems to be mainly a Japanese phenomenon, there are reports of similar phenomena developing in Korea, Taiwan and Hong Kong which possess similar high pressure educational systems. However, youths all over the world experience similar social pressures from peers and adults, are bullied or become depressed, and may react with similar behaviours to hikikomori or even lash out with hate and aggression, such as the extreme cases of the Columbine High School massacre in Littleton, Colorado, United States, or the Erfurt massacre in Erfurt, Germany.
Im looking forward to hear some opinions from some people here. i think this can be a serieus problem for the future....
Greetings Dutch baka ( aka dave..... :wave: )
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