Duo
Southern Sun
I got into a discussion with someone the other day about family. My contention was that the main purpose of a human being, at least biologically speaking, is to reproduce and to have a successful outcome, kids make it through birth, grow up safely, and continue their life etc etc. So I was saying that family should be the nr 1 priority of everyone, even if your just a kid or a grandma. But these days I see that things are a bit different, we see divorces all the time, we see parents and grandparents being distant, kids and their parents being distant and having a cold relationship, brothers and sisters fighting over money and what not. Especially in the West.
Three out of of the three last girls that I went out with had family problems such at this, their parents were either divorced, about to be divorce, or separted but didn't divorce because of money issues. With the first two it didn't turn out so good, and I have doubts about how it will turn out with the third one. I don't want to make assumtions but I wonder if them having any problems like that in the family affects their personal life as well. One of them told me she would never get married because of what her parents went through..... This made me wonder whether part of why things didn't work out between us was their family issues, I refused the possibility that they didn't like that me much
In one of my sociology classes someone marked that part of why the modern family is being broken up is because women have become more indepedent. But to me it appears that is not just husband and wife relationships that are suffering, but also other ties within the family.
What do you think about this, or maybe it is not such a big problem after all, or is it a bit disconcerting?
I should add that since I lived in the same house with my parents and grandparents until I was 14 I have an unusual family cohesiveness concept build within me that may differ from many of your upbringings, but anyways, how do you see the situation of the family today ?
Three out of of the three last girls that I went out with had family problems such at this, their parents were either divorced, about to be divorce, or separted but didn't divorce because of money issues. With the first two it didn't turn out so good, and I have doubts about how it will turn out with the third one. I don't want to make assumtions but I wonder if them having any problems like that in the family affects their personal life as well. One of them told me she would never get married because of what her parents went through..... This made me wonder whether part of why things didn't work out between us was their family issues, I refused the possibility that they didn't like that me much
In one of my sociology classes someone marked that part of why the modern family is being broken up is because women have become more indepedent. But to me it appears that is not just husband and wife relationships that are suffering, but also other ties within the family.
What do you think about this, or maybe it is not such a big problem after all, or is it a bit disconcerting?
I should add that since I lived in the same house with my parents and grandparents until I was 14 I have an unusual family cohesiveness concept build within me that may differ from many of your upbringings, but anyways, how do you see the situation of the family today ?