I'm like that, although I wouldn't usually say out loud as it seems non-macho.
I've read accounts written by British soldiers in WWI where the common view seemed to be that the men who dived into the nearest brothel at the first opportunity were also the least reliable in a fight. That's the basis of my view also. I assume they'll run when things go bad.
Don't you think natural inclination is one thing, while behavior is another and can run contrary to instinct and inclination because of moral or religious training? We're human beings after all, not animals, and can be taught to control ourselves.
So, perhaps your example isn't precisely on point? Especially in times when prostitutes carried terrible venereal diseases, and there were no antibiotics or readily available condoms, a man who would go rushing into one probably had some problems with impulse control.
That isn't quite what I mean about promiscuity. My original comment was perhaps a bit hyperbolic.
However, I do think that more men than women don't find the
idea of having sex with multiple women over the course of a week or a month disgusting to contemplate. While such men may be a minority, in situations involving group sex, sado-masochistic sex, forcible sex etc, the law enforcement data is clear that it is almost inevitably men who initiate it and who often coerce their female partners to participate. I really do think there are some differences in this regard between men and women which are probably genetic, although social and environmental factors obviously have a huge role to play.
Of course, we can't go into people's minds and figure out what they really feel, and even in terms of behavior you can find a study supporting almost every claim that could be made. One also has to consider that men might lie and report more sexual activity than they actually have had, and women might report less. With those caveats, there is some data on some of these things.
"A 1994 study in the United States, which looked at the number of sexual partners in a lifetime, found 20% of heterosexual men had only one partner, 55% had two to 20 partners, and 25% had more than 20 partners.
[20] More recent studies have reported similar numbers.
[21] "
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Promiscuity
I couldn't find much data on female promiscuity from actual sociological studies. The few that I could find are behind pay walls. So, I'm left with this:
Men tend to have higher sociosexuality scores and be more unrestricted than women across a variety of cultures.
[5][6] However, there is more variability in scores within each gender than between men and women, indicating that although the average man is less restricted than the average woman, individuals may vary in sociosexual orientation regardless of gender.
[7]"
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_promiscuity#cite_note-Atwood-69
As to how much of any of this is genetic versus social conditioning you can find studies to support either side of the debate.
Although the investment in offspring theory is very popular, I think this is a sensible approach:
"are naturally restricted (Hazan & Diamond 2000), with sex roles in certain cultures causing large sex differences by promoting unrestricted sociosexuality in men – perhaps us-ing male promiscuity as a means of patriarchal oppression? Are women designed to be more promiscuous than men (Sherfey 1966), with sex roles in certain cultures somehow reversing our naturally polyandrous mating system? Are men naturally more promiscuous than women (Symons1979), with sex roles in certain cultures minimizing sex differences by accentuating unrestricted sociosexuality in women? Or is it the case both men and women are naturally unrestricted (Barash & Lipton 2001), with sex roles in certain cultures causing large sex differences by suppress-ing women’s innate tendency toward sexual promiscuity?To address these questions, additional theorizing is needed."
http://psy.swan.ac.uk/staff/stewart-williams/publications/Schmitt_2005.pdfc
There are some "fun" studies on the matter of "infidelity" in general or lifetime number of partners, but needless to say they're all to be taken with a large grain of salt.
This study purports to list most promiscuous countries. I don't know how they define promiscuity.
http://naughtynomadforum.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=1116
I'd love to see a breakout by gender; some will be heavily influenced by male stats whereas in some areas women's scores are almost as high as those of men.
Average number of partners worldwide:
http://www.statista.com/statistics/...ual-partners-in-selected-countries-worldwide/
Some surprises there, such as Turkey coming in at number 1 with 14, Australia and New Zealand with 13. Again, I think there are wide disparities between men and women for some groups.
This is an interesting study published by the Wall Street Journal about American singles:
http://si.wsj.net/public/resources/images/PJ-CB478A_BONDS_9U_20150504145411.jpg
This one is bizarre. The statistics are only for women, and have to do with cheating:
Nigeria 62%
Thailand 59%
Malaysia 39%
Russia 33%
Singapore 19%
France 16.3%
U.S. 14%
http://www.insidermonkey.com/blog/lover-beware-the-8-countries-that-cheat-the-most-335926/2/
Yet another study however found that New Zealand had the highest frequency of "promiscuous" women. Nothing else to do?
"For example, a survey for
More Magazine stated that 21-year-old
British women have more sex partners than their male equivalents (9 versus 7);
[70] nonetheless, in a non-scientific study conducted by the condom-making company
Durex, British women reported fewer partners than British men, while the only country where women reported more sex partners than men did was
New Zealand (20.4 versus 16.8), which was also the country where women reported more sex partners than did women from all other countries surveyed.
[71]
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_promiscuity#cite_note-72
From Britain also comes this statistic: Relate’s 2014
The Way We Are Now report found that 31% of men and 21% of women had slept with more than ten people in their lifetime.
Not a big difference there, so perhaps there really isn't that big a difference and as the culture changes the gap narrows. I honestly don't know whether I believe my own statement anymore.
I do know that according to the studies I ran across, none of this correlates with the amount of sex people have or their satisfaction levels.
It should also be obvious that some very wealthy countries have very high levels of promiscuity, which partially goes to the point of the original post.