If you want
my opinion, why not, but in America the feminazi police object.
The day that men no longer look up, or turn their heads and "dream" for a few seconds when she passes by is a sorry day for a lot of women. It's part of the spice of life, and I see absolutely nothing wrong with it.
Women do it too, you know, depending on the woman, if less often usually, and more discretely than men.
When caught, you need merely say, "I'm married, not dead".
I think it's only fundamentalist Protestants who take that whole "lusting in the heart is a sin" thing seriously, at least if it's just basically admiration, and not obsession with someone else.
I know what you mean about the beach...especially as a woman looking at men. Pardon me, but some male continental bathing attire is a little "gross" for my taste. Too much info, as my daughter says! Maybe, in general, we don't want it
too real: we prefer the hazy daydream. It's safer that way, too. Then, there's the fact that even in a marriage I think it's very important to keep a little mystery, not be too available in every possible way.
Or, there's the sad fact that most people
do look better in clothes, to be honest, at least when they get to a certain age. Almost everyone has those imperfections they wish they didn't have...
Apropos of that, a friend of mine strayed onto the beach of a nudist colony. It took him a week to recover, he said. Sometimes it seems as if the more people should cover up, the more they take off!
Oh, and you don't own us, Yetos, even if we let you think that to some extent...it's a gift, not a purchase, and like all gifts can be withdrawn. Also, real jealousy is a terrible thing. It's very difficult to live with a really jealous person; it's suffocating. I think it also sometimes says more about the jealous person than about the partner. There's a bit of projection going on, I think, where they're thinking the partner behaves the way they do...