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    I am not going to deny it, looks do matter to me, whether little or alot, it depends. but no matter what, i will never again start a relationship based on just looks alone (which i've foolishly done so twice in my past relations ) However, people with good looks/nice clothes will catch my eye even in a big crowd. So in my initial impression, it has advantages for a beautiful guy. Many people say that gorgeous guys/girls are conceited/vain/hard to reach but nooo, some are humble and nice

    If i meet someone for the first time, he won't stay on my mind afterwards if he doesn't look nice. UNLESS, that guy is super nice or have a very easygoing personality that makes me feel comfortable around him. This may seem so common to other people, but to me, i find it really hard to open up my feelings to others. Even some of my friends who i've known for many years, i still don't feel like myself when i'm around them. So far, i've only met two guys who can manage to make me feel comfortable when hanging around with them. omg, i lost my point. uh.. yeah.. like what everyone says, looks matter at first, then the personality will determine if a relationship will work out. (^^)b

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    at the beginning YES, later on NO.

    Example: When you go out with your friends to a bar, and you see two chicks, one ugly chick, and one goodlooking chick! so, which girl are you gonna pick up? Not the ugly girl, at least you don't have that intention in the beginning. Conclusion: Looks do matter!


    Example 2: When you are in a relation for a while, one week, 3 weeks, 6months, you are getting to know the inside of a person, at that moment you don't think about the outside any more, you just her to get your freaking beers when the game starts, and that she will shut up! Conclusion: Looks doesn't matter, Inside Does!!

    So yeah, if you are looking for a one-night, or a couple of weeks, go for the looks, but eventually it doesn't matter anymore because it's all about the inside, and the beer!!!!!!!!!!

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    I didn't know what it meant when it asked "Do looks really matter?" I thought he meant all around (Like getting certain jobs, respect etc..), but I didn't know it was about attraction. So I put yes.

    I would say that it partially does. There are people who are just in it for the looks. To me they have to be good looking, but if they aren't nice and they don't have a good personality then it doesn't matter what they look like. I wouldn't give them a time of day if they weren't nice.

    To me, looks are just an accessory, but personality is what really makes a person beautiful..

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    I personally don't think looks matter, but I can understand where others think they do. Would you really want a scruffy looking teenager in your store? Afterall, don't teenagers usually like to steal things because they are either cheap/don't have any money? Would you want your daughter to date a guy who has a swastika tattooed on his chest? It's really all just common sense. I think it's stupid to make appearances matter, but we live in a society where money is the thing that matters most. Money buys things that make us look nice.

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    I personaly think sometimes or most of the time the first impression is very important....I have to admit that a good looking guy will catch my attention more than an ugly one (dont like the word ugly) but.....also a good presonality and an easygoing person matters more than looks......still when meeting someone what really counts is the attraction between both persons and mostly this attraction is for how the other person looks like...and only time will decide if there's chemestry between them or not and that's when looks wont matter anymore.............OMG I almost lost my point...I hope you understand what Im talking about....I made it so confusing oh:

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    My sister has a boyfriend. But look wise, he's not her type, Well, he is now. But it's his personality that made him attractive.

    Like I said before: looks are just an accessory, but personality is what really makes a person beautiful..

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    Yep looks do matter absolutely!
    Who would want a girl/guy ,who just looks terrible most people would definetly tend to preferring a goodlooking guy/girl.
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    I agree but still I dont think anyone will stay with a bad/stupid/any adjective person just because is good looking....that girl/guy most have something else besides his/her looks.....unless you dont want a serious relationship with that person

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    Mitsuo said it best.
    looks are just an accessory, but personality is what really makes a person beautiful.
    Although, when you meet a person for the first time, you have to get a snap impression based on looks, because at that point you have nothing else to go on.
    It's when people never reach beyond that, that you get problems.

    There are certain stereotypes that have a reason behind them: like Thor was pointing out, look for a moment from the point of view of a storekeeper... scruffy = poor = more likely to steal something. Even though it's simplistic, it can be someone's gut reaction.

    I posted something on the 'clothes' thread about how I'm sometimes interested to dress in different ways and observe the differences in people's reactions to me.
    For example, I have 2 warm coats. One is long and velvet with beads and sequins on it and generally looks pretty swish and as though it cost a lot (it was from a sale! ^^). The other is an old baggy army jacket. I love both those coats about equally. I have noticed very much a difference in response from storekeepers depending on the coat I am wearing! Odd, but true...

    So 'looks matters' applies to what you wear, as well as the natural looks of your face and figure.

    Quote Originally Posted by Thor
    Money buys things that make us look nice
    That's a very good and important point and says a lot more concisely what I was just woffling on about.

    Quote Originally Posted by moffeltoff
    Who would want a girl/guy ,who just looks terrible most people would definetly tend to preferring a goodlooking guy/girl.
    Hmm, but I wouldn't prefer them if they were a less nice person. ><
    IMO, most people don't look 'terrible' really... unless they don't wash themself or brush their hair at all, or something I don't really think of people as 'ugly'... just that some people stand out as good-looking from the rest (majority) as 'ordinary'.

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    I'm attracted to personality. For me, that's what defines how attractive people are. I know I've fallen for a lot of gals who at first glance didn't look at all pretty, but after I'd gotten to know them, they seem to get prettier. Of course, it apparently must have been the total opposite for them when they got to know me more


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    Quote Originally Posted by TimF
    I have been talking to alot of people lately (alot of female people) and it seems that i am picking up a lot of women lately i am not good looking by any means i am just a good listener and i use alot of soft kind words like for instance this one girl i was talking to was starting to cry about a bad memory and i told her "Please dont cry....you are far too beautiful to have tears run down your face." and "Words alone are not enough to sway the heart but for when the time is right the heart moves on its own accord from within." I use words like this (only if I mean them though) to make up for my lack in good looks and i find they work just as good or if not better. So i am asking the good people of jref do looks really matter?

    okay i think that this is a matter of the person that you are talking too. i haven't read any previous posts so forgive me if this is a repeat of someone elses. okay i think that it matters who your talking to i mean you could be talking number one to someone who is quite dependant on looks now for females if a guy is the "stuff" he is who everyone wants or wants to be. now i dont' think that looks matter as far as things go. Me and kris have been dating for a year and 3 months now if he wasnt' handsome i still would've talked to him because to me looks dont' make the person people make themselves who they are by personality. i've met beautiful females that are just so ugly and snotty on the inside that i can't stand to look at them.that's just my opinon and my input. now if a my boyfriend said something as sweet as that to me...i'd cry more because of how happy it made me.. just my input hope it helps in the long run
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    Quote Originally Posted by JoRuDeNnA
    I agree but still I dont think anyone will stay with a bad/stupid/any adjective person just because is good looking....that girl/guy most have something else besides his/her looks.....unless you dont want a serious relationship with that person
    Beeing nice sucks the only thing women say to you is :"Wow no one understands me the way you do"
    Which means you are a "friend" ,so you have uktimately lost sukker ;)
    My experience is ,that its much more attraktiv to be goodlooking *******.

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    Quote Originally Posted by moffeltoff
    Beeing nice sucks the only thing women say to you is :"Wow no one understands me the way you do"
    Which means you are a "friend" ,so you have uktimately lost sukker
    I still prefer 'nice' people - I don't care if being nice sucks.
    Nice as in kind, considerate, reliable - what's wrong with that?

    I'm not sure I'd want a girl who is attracted to nasty men, anyway.
    They're just setting themselves up for years of misery and bitterness later on.

    Peace!

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    People say "nice guys finish last".
    Partly it can be true.
    People overlook "nice guys" sometimes.
    Too bad i can never find any of them.

    All the rejected nice people! come to meeeeeeeee! I love you!!

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    Thanks Kinsao, that is kind of reassuring.
    I think there is some truth to the saying ''Treat them mean, keep them keen''.
    when it comes to getting the ladies.

    However, in other areas being nice is quite useful.
    I don't think I would have got this job, or the one before it without my better qualities, (not only the actual job specifications)
    It is much more pleasurable to be nice if you want to work in a good atmosphere and have good relations with your business contacts, wherever possible.

    There is only one person where I work that I don't get on with, and he had a problem with every other english engineer who worked here anyway.

    So, I will keep being 'nice', but maybe I need to re-evaluate my approach to the fairer sex.

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    How about how important is your own look to you ?
    Isn't this a reflection of how important, other people looks, are to you ?

    Possibly if someone spend hours in front of the mirror before going out, for this person it is more important how other people look, than someone that doesn't check his/her self out in the mirror before going out.

    Does it make sense ?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rich303
    I still prefer 'nice' people - I don't care if being nice sucks.
    Nice as in kind, considerate, reliable - what's wrong with that?
    I'm not sure I'd want a girl who is attracted to nasty men, anyway.
    They're just setting themselves up for years of misery and bitterness later on.
    Peace!
    Beeing egoistic and selfconfident will get you much further than beeing nice and selfconfident ,thats just the sad truth.

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    Quote Originally Posted by moffeltoff
    Beeing egoistic and selfconfident will get you much further than beeing nice and selfconfident ,thats just the sad truth.
    It depends what you want out of life Moff.

    but I understand what you mean - that you need to be tough to get to the top(e.g in a job), that's a fair enough opinion.

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    Quote Originally Posted by scieck
    How about how important is your own look to you ?
    Isn't this a reflection of how important, other people looks, are to you ?
    Possibly if someone spend hours in front of the mirror before going out, for this person it is more important how other people look, than someone that doesn't check his/her self out in the mirror before going out.
    Does it make sense ?
    I agree, I spend loads of money on: makeup, clothes, accessories etc...and I spend much time in front of the mirror every morning, and and also during the day.
    Looks are important to me, and that is also the reason I spend much money on hairdressers, facials a few times a year, manicure, working out at the gym etc....
    The looks on a person is first impression for me....

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    Are looks important to me? Thanks to the internet, looks have started to matter less and less to me. I judge people based on their morals and their education. I'd say that looks matter to everyone, at first. There are certain occasions, though, when we go beyond the looks, and find something truly beautiful. By that time, looks don't really matter that much.

    Do I care how I look? Not really... unless its a costume for some sort of theatrical production...or if its a costume to scare little kids on Halloween.

    I wear no makeup (unless I want to use it for costumes). For clothing, I prefer to wear whatever feels nicest. I'll pick up some clothes based on what they look like, but that's only for formal occasions or if they'll serve some other (preferably humorous) purpose. I was blessed with perfect teeth that have withstood abuse that would make some people cringe.
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    I would also like to add on to my earlier posts. Attraction is something that happens virtually on its own... without any conscious decision at all.

    It has been studied that 95% of our decisions are made by our unconscious minds. The other 5% is made by pre-determined thoughts.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kinsao
    IMO, most people don't look 'terrible' really... unless they don't wash themself or brush their hair at all, or something I don't really think of people as 'ugly'... just that some people stand out as good-looking from the rest (majority) as 'ordinary'.
    I would agree with that. I find very good looking people unattractive. There aren't many people I would call ugly. The vast majority of people lie somewhere in between - they are attractive in their own way.
    Quote Originally Posted by lastmagi
    I'm attracted to personality. For me, that's what defines how attractive people are. I know I've fallen for a lot of gals who at first glance didn't look at all pretty, but after I'd gotten to know them, they seem to get prettier.
    That's true for me too. You don't have to talk to someone for very long to see beyond their looks and find their personality attractive. When I first met Simon I thought he looked like a geek, but it took just long enough for him to pay for a bottle of milk for me to see what is attractive about him.
    Quote Originally Posted by Rich303
    I think there is some truth to the saying ''Treat them mean, keep them keen''.
    when it comes to getting the ladies...So, I will keep being 'nice', but maybe I need to re-evaluate my approach to the fairer sex.
    I don't think you would be very happy with someone who didn't appreciate your nice personality! I don't know anyone who likes being treated mean - I just think some people don't know any different, and their lack of experience with nice people stops them from finding such a person attractive. But in reality, everyone would be happier with someone nice. Some people don't want to be happy though.
    Quote Originally Posted by moffeltoff
    Beeing egoistic and selfconfident will get you much further than beeing nice and selfconfident ,thats just the sad truth.
    As Rich says, further towards what? Anything that requires me to be something I'm not isn't worth the pursuit.
    Quote Originally Posted by Mitsuo Oda
    I would also like to add on to my earlier posts. Attraction is something that happens virtually on its own... without any conscious decision at all.
    It has been studied that 95% of our decisions are made by our unconscious minds. The other 5% is made by pre-determined thoughts.
    I think that's true. Sight isn't the only sense - we process all kinds of information about a person when we first meet them, and who knows what affect it has on us subconsciously?

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    Well, I like to think I'm a nice guy. I'm just ugly as sin!

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    Hum...personnally I'm not the ordinary "look is everything" guy but I do believe that look plays an important part during the 1st contact.
    As for this unconsciousness thing well...that might explain why I rarely feel at ease with girls I could potentially date and end up acting like a total stranger :P
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    For example for me the big role the naked figure of the girl and expression of her face , than, how she is dressed (but in clothes I feel style strongly...)...
    Least it is interesting me to communicate with the girl "intellectually" - it is very"strain"...
    It is better to drink good wine and to look, how the naked girl in twilight dances...
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