Since our modern world is oversexualized and one night stand relationship became normal in contrast being a virgin is considered as a shame even among 16 years old, what do we expect? Most of us even the so called Christian Europeans feel no guilty to engage in sex before marriage. What's the point for men to settle down in a relationship which has no other benefits than losing other possible partners for psychical pleasure.
I agree with you that most younger men as younger women see themselves as toys and it's a kind of pleasure to use each others body for a short period of time to handle our frustration.
Why does the Western family decline?
There may be many factors to consider other than sexuality, but the morality of each of these individuals who make the society. Since our early childhood we're believed to be social beings and we're educated in a way to be cooperative when it comes to working and partners, we see new people around us and we get used to lose and get new relationships.
Most younger in capitalist societies were being spent their childhood around other kids not with their parents so the basic learning-copy mechanism to follow the parents become little to non existent.
Money and personal succeed became the most important model in the Western/Capitalist system. People give up social life if it has no benefits other than profit and acquaintance. Being involved in a relationship takes a lot of time and considerations.
Financial success became the major part when people consider to have a child. In the past people had an own land and their work and production didn't base upon the society as they were able to live on their own. Most people today feel vulnerable about their jobs, economy and barely knows what would happen in the future.
People either think about the past or the future.
"We're planning a family together" instead "make a family"
The most concepts consider humans as social beings, but do most realize the fact most people were used to live in smaller societies around people with close relationship.
What's the situation now?
- Most people live in metropolitan areas around millions of people.
- Those who get used to know hundreds in their lives barely get really close to all, in fact a lot will feel segregated and powerless by the fact that even if they build a relationship with x people these sort of connections often break up by school changes, moving to other areas and other major factors.
- The lose of relationship with family seem to be the most significant problem because family is what keep somebody safe at young age and if someone doesn't get the basic time and values to build a close family the psychological mechanism or need to copy this mechanism will be missing in his adulthood.
We learn by copy others lifestyle and if we miss the first step (family) we're lost and lose the morality, knowledge to build and keep a family.
We have to consider the improvement of entertainment system. People spend hours with video games, movies. Women fall in love with role model characters from TV shows and a lot build the "perfect man" standard which doesn't even exist only in the show she watches or the singer she listens 2 hours a day.
The fetish of celebs and other cults had lead to millions of people living in a dream world including religion.
Men who feel powerless keep watching TV shows as well and they associate themselves with basketball players, movie actors and get their "role model" based on these shows.
Even adult men i talk to seem to lack "own personality" but seek a role model - it usually becomes politic, nation or an idea that take away his own individualistic thinking and make him incapable to form own toughs.