Tomenable: So do you agree that DNA paternity testing should be illegal in France?
If my memory serves me, paternal testing can be done in France, but only by court order. The goal is to protect the children and help keep families intact for their benefit.They presumably also don't want the state to have to help support these children. I understand the rationale, but on balance, no, I don't think I agree with it. If the husband is that suspicious, he either has good reason, or he's pathologically jealous, and in either case it's probably not a healthy environment for the child anyway.
What happened, why did that marriage fail? Was it his fault?
How incredibly presumptuous you are! I shouldn't answer at all, because you're being so incredibly rude and invading my privacy, but you're also so desperately in need of some life guidance, that I will.
I'll start with raising children, although you didn't mention it. To parent the way that I believe you should and the way I attempted to do requires an incredible amount of self-sacrifice. They have to come first, which affects every single aspect of your own life. It also requires an extreme amount of patience and forbearance, which I find I have less and less of with each passing year. That's not to mention the physical energy which is required. If my children wait until I'm really old and decrepit, I just wouldn't be up to raising them full time, although of course I would help to the limits of my ability if required.
In some ways, marriage is similar. It requires compromise, negotiation, patience, forbearance, forgiveness etc.. Of course, the rewards are tremendous: companionship, partnership, not to mention the obvious sexual satisfaction and fulfillment. When you're deeply in love, you're very willing to do all of this, or you should be. Perhaps it's a failure of imagination on my part, but I can't imagine falling madly in love again. To some degree that's a function of age, but it also would require a constellation of qualities that I doubt would be easy to find again. Nor can I imagine being willing to start the entire process of compromise, negotiation etc. all over again. I sincerely doubt I'd be able to have children again, either, one of the reasons for getting married in the first place. So, he could keep his place, I mine, we could have a very nice, companionable friendship and relationship, with benefits, but then he can go back to his place.
I'm too stuck in my ways by now to change them for a new man. No need, either.
The video is irrelevant to the topic, which is mis-attributed paternity. The conclusion of the research is that despite some men's paranoid fears, your children are, in almost all cases, your biological children.
Whether that's true in every culture, and whether, in very recent times, that means your wife isn't cheating on you is perhaps a different question.
Oh you underestimate women:
First of all, you really do seem to over-generalize about everything, including women. Not all women are the same, just as all men are not the same. From my experience, however, and from all the studies I've seen, the majority of women are faithful, more faithful than men, anyway. Plus, the reasons women cheat are, on average, different from the reasons for men, although that's another topic. You should be leery about drawing conclusions about male/female relationships, or anything, really, on the youtube videos of some random person.