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Thread: Are parents to blame for the way their kid(s) turn out?

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    I have two grown sons. My theory was to give them some freedom and see how they handled it. If they had trouble, you reel them back in until they showed they could handle it, and give them more. They were both very well balanced and successful. One of the best things I ever did was let them be exchange students, one to Germany, one to France. They learned many lessons there especially about drinking and driving.

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    In many ways yes. But there's plenty of outside factors.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Opium View Post
    In many ways yes.

    I will use my four colleagues for example. Supposedly they're professionals. I say supposedly because I've seen better manners from homeless people. These four (3 men, 1 womanl) are in one word ignorant, arrogant and in many ways outright bullies due to their 'superior' than thou complexes even to other professionals. Oops, that was an entire sentence.

    You would have to experience the 'charming' group yourself. However, I can tell you not many people quite pick up the level of their (ignorant) behavior from a school yard. And if you listen in on their conversations about how their family life it is apparently a carry over from the way that their parents treated them & acted towards other people. More so it is obvious in how the woman & one of the guys is teaching their children to behave in a similar manner.
    Also inherited genetic predisposition to being a dick. Human character is not only about nurture. Nature is powerful too.
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    Until 21, blame your Parents. After that, grow up and shut-up.
    Ancient Rule, often repeated by Parents of the “Tavoliere Delle Puglie”.

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    Quote Originally Posted by elisakim View Post
    Do you think the way your parents raise you, everything they do and don't do make you who you are now?
    I'm very much like my parents, and I attribute that to both genetics, and how they've raised me. Sometimes it clashes with other people, but I really don't care, because it makes perfect sense to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jovialis View Post
    I'm very much like my parents, and I attribute that to both genetics, and how they've raised me. Sometimes it clashes with other people, but I really don't care, because it makes perfect sense to me.
    Amen, amen. :)


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    I do believe that parents start patterns. They can be positive ones and they can be negative ones. Yes, patterns can be broken. But often they are not. So "are parents to blame"? I think the question is fundamentally wrong as blame is never worth finding. Solutions are. So when someone says "you cannot blame the parents" I have a strong issue with it as it whitewashes whatever they may have done or not done and wanting to be labeled "not to blame" should not be in any interest to parents... a great future for their child should be. And when you say "the parents are to blame", you put someone into a victim position rather than focusing their energy towards breaking the patterns and living a good life regardless of how messed up their childhood and their parents might have been.

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    I think it's is a reflection on the parents. I raised my boys with as much freedom as they could handle. When they got in trouble, I reel them back in and let them back out slowly. For instance, my younger son at 17 was caught drinking by the state police and they took him to jail (after a call to me to get his jeep). When I finally was able to pick him up and walking to the car, I said, "I don't know if I've ever been more disappointed in you." He said it was the worst punishment ever. The next day I told him his punishment would be that since he got into trouble by 10:00 p.m., that would be his curfew until further notice. It lasted about 2 months, and he came to me and begged to stay out later, saying he'd learned his lesson. I let him stay out later and he kept his word.

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    Its not always the parents complete fault.
    Friends influence alot. But also its the childs decisions to make his or hers choices

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