Angela
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See:
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeand...without-children-or-a-spouse-happiness-expert
"[FONT="]“We do have some good longitudinal data following the same people over time, but I am going to do a massive disservice to that science and just say: if you’re a man, you should probably get married; if you’re a woman, don’t bother.”[/FONT]
This isn't the first time I've seen someone make this claim. Single women live longer than married women, married men live longer than single men, etc.
My first reaction is that I've grown to distrust "psychology" papers. There is a huge replication crisis, partly because of small sample sizes and partly because of terrible statistical analysis or downright "tinkering" with data to get the required results.
Interesting that married people, probably women, answer the "happiness" question more negatively if their spouses aren't present.
There are a few common sense explanations, of course.
"[FONT="]Men benefited from marriage because they “calmed down”, he said. “You take less risks, you earn more money at work, and you live a little longer. She, on the other hand, has to put up with that, and dies sooner than if she never married. The healthiest and happiest population subgroup are women who never married or had children,” he said."
"[/FONT][FONT="]Dolan said men showed more health benefits from tying the knot, as they took fewer risks. Women’s health was mostly unaffected by marriage, with middle-aged married women even being at higher risk of physical and mental conditions than their single counterparts."
One could say, I suppose, that a life trying to balance work with taking the major responsibility for the home and the children leads to a lot of stress and that's the cause.
A lot would depend on which husband and what kind of children, I would imagine. I've seen other studies which say that much more so in recent times than in the past both men and women say they regret having children. Given how some turn out nowadays than in the past I'm not surprised. I've also seen studies that deeply religious married couples are happier. Maybe they're fooling themselves, or maybe husbands in those situations are more likely not to stray and put more effort into parenthood. I don't know.
Meanwhile, IF this is true, you have society telling women they should want to marry and have children, only to have them discover it's no bed of roses.
On a partly jocular note, the happiest women I ever met were nuns.
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https://www.theguardian.com/lifeand...without-children-or-a-spouse-happiness-expert
"[FONT="]“We do have some good longitudinal data following the same people over time, but I am going to do a massive disservice to that science and just say: if you’re a man, you should probably get married; if you’re a woman, don’t bother.”[/FONT]
This isn't the first time I've seen someone make this claim. Single women live longer than married women, married men live longer than single men, etc.
My first reaction is that I've grown to distrust "psychology" papers. There is a huge replication crisis, partly because of small sample sizes and partly because of terrible statistical analysis or downright "tinkering" with data to get the required results.
Interesting that married people, probably women, answer the "happiness" question more negatively if their spouses aren't present.
There are a few common sense explanations, of course.
"[FONT="]Men benefited from marriage because they “calmed down”, he said. “You take less risks, you earn more money at work, and you live a little longer. She, on the other hand, has to put up with that, and dies sooner than if she never married. The healthiest and happiest population subgroup are women who never married or had children,” he said."
"[/FONT][FONT="]Dolan said men showed more health benefits from tying the knot, as they took fewer risks. Women’s health was mostly unaffected by marriage, with middle-aged married women even being at higher risk of physical and mental conditions than their single counterparts."
One could say, I suppose, that a life trying to balance work with taking the major responsibility for the home and the children leads to a lot of stress and that's the cause.
A lot would depend on which husband and what kind of children, I would imagine. I've seen other studies which say that much more so in recent times than in the past both men and women say they regret having children. Given how some turn out nowadays than in the past I'm not surprised. I've also seen studies that deeply religious married couples are happier. Maybe they're fooling themselves, or maybe husbands in those situations are more likely not to stray and put more effort into parenthood. I don't know.
Meanwhile, IF this is true, you have society telling women they should want to marry and have children, only to have them discover it's no bed of roses.
On a partly jocular note, the happiest women I ever met were nuns.
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