That is true it should not be a forced upon ideal, I assume it is human nature to look after your own self interest first and or those you deeply care for. Philanthropy comes from Greek meaning love of humanity so you need to at least reach a point where you have to have a love for greater humanity, easier said than done...
Bringing it back to the Russo-Ukraine conflict, I've heard they have begun talking again, so lets hope peace is brokered soon...