[*didn't read all above posts*]
Yes.. Looks matter.. I cannot tell a lie.. I know I sound shallow but I simply wouldn't start a relationship with someone I didn't find attractive.. I'm being
honest here so don't blame me.. I am what's considered good-looking (I swear I'm not as conceded as I sound
) and I really would only approach a girl if I find her attractive.. It is
definitely not the only thing that matters.. but if you say that looks don't matter you are a liar. A girl must be funny and pleasant to be around. But really attractive girls don't generally have one of those movie stereotype horrible attitudes.. So if you are non-attractive and have a great personality.. most likely you will lose out to the really attractive girl with a good personality.. not to be an ass but it's not just me.. this is the society we live in.. It's not right by any means but really it's the way it is.. Most men deep down know that looks matter to themselves.. and women aren't innocent as they pretend either.. girls I have dealt with were first attracted to my looks obviously so I have this luck over the average guy (not saying this is right or should be)..
then she will get to know me and notice I have a great personality and notice I'm not self-centered (Well, not really anyway, I still have high self-esteem about myself and do consider myself a great guy
heh) or an ass.. So at first, Yes, it always matters, even clothes matter, just the way you present yourself and what impression you give will dictate what someone thinks about you.. then when you get to know someone, even if they are good looking if they have a horrible personality then ofcourse it is not tolerable.. If you are not what people would consider attractive and have a great personality, you still do have a good chance, but first impressions may affect it.. so I suppose if you are unattractive you have to make a bit of an extra effort.. But like I said I'm not an ass, I am telling it like it is, but in this world
Bottom Line, Looks do matter to an extent. That's just the way it is.