I wrote an article on the
differences between the USA and Europe that I hope can be useful to both Americans and Europeans to help them understand each others.
Having travelled to many countries around the world, I can say that there are a number of other things that are really specific to the US and that many Americans don't seem to be aware of it. The tipping culture is one of them. I have never had to tip anywhere else outside the US. Even in Japan, which in many ways is as close to the American system as one can get due to the post-WWII occupation and Americanization, if you try to leave a tip on the table, the staff will chase you down the street to return it to you. And Japan is full of American chain restaurants, and not just the international ones like McDonald, KFC and Starbucks, but many that are unknown in Europe too (Denny's, Sizzler...).
The smiling thing and openness to stranger is also unique to Americans in the developed world. I have seen it in Africa and in poor rural areas in South and Southeast Asia, but otherwise the norm is that people don't smile to strangers unless they are trying to flirt or they are shop assistants and salespeople trying to sell something. This is just as true in Scandinavia as in France, Britain, Poland, India, China or Japan. Some parts of Latin America may be different (Brazil?), but even so probably not as much as the USA.
I have been countless times in France, to all parts of the country. I am a native French speaker and have family who now lives in France. Yet I have never experienced such service not heard of anyone who has.
Overall I agree with Wolters that service is much worse in Paris than elsewhere in France, and Parisians can be quite insufferable even to other French people. But overall France is not a service country. The expression 'the customer is always right' or 'the client is king', which are cherished in Anglo-American cultures and Japan, is meaningless to most French people (and French-speaking Belgians to a lower extent). This summer I was in the south of France. We travelled 15 minutes by car to get to a restaurant after carefully checking the opening hours on Google. We arrived at 13.20, 40 minutes before closing timem only to be told that the kitchen was already closed because they didn't have enough customer that day and as a result they couldn't accept us. What's the logic behind that? They don't have enough customers but refuse a group of customers eager to try their food. That's the kind of France I know and have been used to since my childhood. No business sense, no customer service.
Do you mean my restaurant stories? That surprises me. They weren't the only such things that happened to us on that trip. I remember that I was using a guide written up by a New York Times reporter, and he pointed us to a restaurant that served regional food from the Auvergne. We just loved it, and the waiter and owner of this small place started talking to us, asking us about America, if we knew a relative in Chicago, obviously not

, and other things. They insisted we come back one more time before we left Paris. We did, and the food was even better. We took lots of pictures, which I later sent to them, videos etc. I still exchange notes at Christmas with the guide we had in southern France, provided by the company that sponsored the trip. Over the course of the five days she became more friend than guide. I've had a few similar experiences in Spain and Italy, although Italy is a different thing because they soon figure out I'm Italian, so I don't think I can use that as a comparison. Heck, we've been invited to Sunday dinner by people we met on the buses and trains in Italy. Probably it has something to do with my husband's personality; he is incredibly outgoing, and makes friends everywhere we go.
I totally agree about the service thing. You have to tolerate a lot if you're in a service industry in the U.S. The only bad service, as I said, is from civil service employees, but our interaction with bureaucrats is so much less here that it's not a big deal. Other than Motor Vehicles, I never have to deal with most of them. It's online, or just send in the paperwork and a check and it's done.
The two things I really don't miss in Italy, and I'm sure it would be the same in France, is the bureaucracy and the inconvenience. Nowhere is as convenient for taking care of the "business" of everyday life as America. I do almost all of my banking and ATM in drive throughs. Ditto for coffee, and even, lately, for those prescriptions that don't get sent to me by mail in three month increments. If I run out of milk, eggs, butter, cereal, or whatever, and don't want the hassle of going to a market, parking, getting a cart, etc., I just drive through the 711 store. All supermarkets and most stores are open 7 days a week, so even if you work full time, you can always calmly get your errands done on Saturday or Sunday. (Banks are open 6 days a week.) Heck, there's usually a market open 24 hours a day within a ten minute drive or something. Bill paying, etc. I do online, often with direct withdrawal from my checking account, so I don't even have to think about missing the due date. It's just totally different in Europe. I tell all my friends who have never been there to make sure they stock up, because nothing will be open on Sundays. Oh, and they have to know restaurants only serve at certain hours too. There's no strolling into a restaurant at 5PM for dinner because you didn't have lunch.
It's just different, and people who are going to travel need to know about the differences.