Boreas,
We're in the same boat. I was born in one country, but spend most of my time in another one, although that will change when I get older. I hold dual citizenship. Sometimes, I'm not quite sure where I "fit". When I'm in Italy I sometimes feel very American. Here, after all this time, I still feel very Italian. If I were a young man and for some reason there was a conflict between Italy and the U.S. I would be very torn.
Sorry, but I am real confused about your speech. I couldn't understand a person who said these thing, can also insist about someone nationality.
THAT IS HUGE IRONY.
You confess that, you are feeling Italian and American under the different situation. You are free to say it. But not Azzurro

etrified: Azzurro can't feel like Italian.
I am sure that in Italy, he is feeling that he is an Canadian.
For a many American, You always be an European, not American and I am sure that in the eyes of many vulgar Italian people (who live in Italy), you are a lady who adopted American culture.
Boreas,
If I were a young man and for some reason there was a conflict between Italy and the U.S. I would be very torn.
It sounds you are not American or Italian
It's totally different for second and third generation Italian-Americans like my husband and all the Italian-Americans I know. When I met him he spoke not one word of Italian, had never been there, and everything he knew of its culture and history he learned in a few classes in general European history in high school.
This is a long process, not switch on-off thing.
I'll go on record: I don't believe there's an Italian-Canadian or Italian-American anywhere, second or third generation, without a word of Italian, who would say I'm not Canadian or American, I'm Italian. Not unless he has a mental disorder.
I guess, I am lunatic.
For me, even staying a few years abroad breaks your Italian purity.
As a first Italian generation in USA, I can imagine how you feel, how you see the second and third generation in there. I am sure that you are feeling deeply that they should not use name Italian.
When I was in UK, I felt same things towards Turks in UK. Also when I came back, I felt that I have missed somethings in my country.
Also about Language,
Just a small historical remind, speaking native language didn't save the Greeks in Turkey or Turks in Greece.
I have talked to much, but I am enjoying and see you precious to talk :heart:
I am lefting West Mediterranean to you, and Focus on East :grin: