Well, I do't know how much you know about Greece and Turkey. Historically, the Western part of present-day Turkey belongs to Ancient Greece. In the 4th century BC, Alexander annexed Anatolia (what is now Turkey) to the Greek sphere of influence, as well as the whole middle east. Then came the Romans. In the 4th century AD, Constantinople become the capital of the Eastern Roman Empire, later to become the Orthodox Christian Byzantine Empire, which official language was Greek. So up to the 15th century when the Muslim Turks from Central Asia (Turkmenistan !) invaded the Byzantine Empire and created the Muslim Ottoman empire (renaming Byzantium/Constantinople "Istanbul"), what is now Greece and Turkey were the same country, with the same culture, language, religion and history. So what is it that the Turks have change, if not the official language and religion, and bringing some Asian blood (but, as you probably know, there are still blue-eyed Turks of European ancestry) ?
I think you are doing the common mistake to confuse Islamic countries with Arabic ones. Turkey is not an Arabic/Semitic country at all. People are of European (Aryan) and Central Asian (related to Mongols) descent. The language itself is closer to Mongol and cental Asian languages than any others. I am not a specialist of the Turkish language, but from what I know, it has lots of words of European origin (esp. Greek and Italian). Culturally, if it's true the Islamic influence differentiate it from Europe (though not Albania or Bosnia or parts of Yugoslavia and Bulgaria in this respect), Turkey aspire to be European. It feels so much closer to Europe that it has trying very hard to join the EU, for much longer than Eastern European countries. Religion, poor economic performances, the petty disputes with Greece and human rights abuses against the Kurds, have prevented it to be officially part of Europe so far.
If you check the official Turkish tourism website, you'll see that they boast about their European and especialy Greek heritage. A Turk would also probably be more offended to be called an Arab than a European, from what some Turkish friends told me (though they'd be angry at being called Greek because of the current problems between the 2 countries
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I would see Turkey as a hybrid country, half European, half Central Asian. The cultural differences you cited are not very deep - they certainly aren't more substantial than the differences between North and South Koreans, and would disappear in a generation if the political and educational system were to change.
- Religion/culture : see above. Covered women are not so much a norm as a fashion in Turkey (like in Malaysia). You'll rarely see entirely veiled women all dressed in black. They usually just wear a headscarf, and it's more common nowadays than 20 years ago. There is no obligation whatsoever, it's just a personnal choice and trend. That is completely different of how they see it in most Arabic countries.
- Turkey's geographical location has little to do with the ethnic, historical or cultural aspects.
- Big families are just a result of poorer economies. Seeing how fast this has changed in Italy and Spain, I expect that Turkey could be in the EU average in less than 15 years. After all, Italians, who used to have very big families traditionally and till the 1950's or 60's, now have the lowest birth rate in Europe with a decreasing population. But has it changed their culture ? I don't think so.
Exactly ! I am happy you point that out. You are demonstating yourself that Turks are in fact much closer in lifestyle to Greeks, Bulgarians or Yugosavs than to Finns, Irish or even English.
That doesn't help us define what is "Westerness", does it ? Thanks for your contribution anyway.