Someone who tell's me I'm their freind--no one should be telling you who your freinds are, only whether they consider you to be theirs.
Also, I should point out that you are mistaken about neutrality--the tormentor has picked an extreme side too. The neutral person is not helping either of them, he is, by definition, neutral--neither an aid nor a hinderance.
Do you prefer to be misunderstood or understood but disagreed with?