that wasn't because she had "non-brown" eyes and didn't have "brown" skin, but probably because she asked for citizenship and not a simple residence permit or even asylum. you can't compare these things. citizenship is often tied to too many hurdles in europe.
No. We asked for a residence permit, which is a pre-condition to become a citizen. So, we asked "what anybody else would ask". Just that (rationally at least), my now-wife had many more reasons to get that residence permit, since she had a couple (future husband) in the EU.
When I asked to marry her, and she accepted, she had to fly to Ukraine back for a month, since Spain would not give her residence, and she had to be away from the EU for at least one month. Imagine, the sweetest period in your life, when you are in love at 100%, you and your future-wife have decided to marry, we had to be away from each other. A drama. I still remember that with strong pain.
For my mother-in-law, the drama was still bigger, since it took more than two years to ask for residence for her (the process is very long, you just need to wait for many months, and then they tell you No for no particular reason: there is no "you do not comply with law ZZZ" or "you did not bring YYY document", just a "No"). This was a drama, since she was alone in Ukraine, no income, without her daughter and her greatson.
I went to the official organizations to ask about asylum conditions. In the end, Ukraine has a GDP per capita lower than say Morocco (the main source of immigrants to Spain), and Morocco does not have any war, unlike Ukraine, which is at war with Russia in two fronts (the Eastern part of the country, and its South).
But in all cases, they said No from the beginning. I can understand that, since asylum should be used for the specific purposes it was designed for. But then, I asked how it is that so many young males, with dark skin and Muslim religion, were coming and living here, many using asylum. They did not have any connection to the country. So how could it be that for me and my family, having real reasons for immigration, we were denied that, and the others had carte blanche.
The answer is as follows: the Spanish law says that if an illegal immigrant is in the country for 3 years (and this can be proven, since despite being illegal, they can register themselves locally), they immediately get a residence permit, and a track for nationality, I think at 10 years.
In addition to this, many were asking for asylum. They knew that in 100% of the cases, the asylum would be denied. But this denial may take 1.5 years to 2 years. So, in this time, they are "legal" and they get State resources. Then, they are only "illegal" about one year or little more (the time between asylum denial and the 3-year period).
But the key of the issue is that these organizations only allow you to start for the asylum process if you are a young male, of dark skin and Muslim religion (despite knowing 100% that it will be denied). If you are a woman of white skin and blue eyes, and Orthodox religion, do not even think that they will start this process for you. And this is what happened to us.
In addition to this, a woman of white skin and blue eyes, and Orthodox religion is scared to death to do anything illegal. My mother-in-law preferred to have an awful life in her country rather than do anything illegal. She thought "oh, what would happen if during these three years, I get caught by the police and they send me back to Ukraine? I will not be able to come back to Spain for the rest of my life!" (there are some cases like that in the press, not for a lifetime, but yes for five years ... imagine not being able to see your daughter and grandson for 5 years!).
Instead, young males, with dark skin and Muslim religion, they known they are protected. There have been cases were these people were selling products in the middle of the most central locations in cities, with no paperwork, no license to sell, selling illegal products, the police then takes them, and they start an immigration process, and then NGOs start complaining there is racism, and they let them go.
These people 1) know they are protected and 2) they do not care if they break the law at all.
So, I completely understand that young males, dark-skinned, of Muslim religion do what they do. I would do the same, if I were in their shoes. My complaint is not on them (I believe 100% on immigration) but on our laws. Irrespective of how theoretically good they are, in practice, the application of the law is discriminatory (against poor Christians with white skin).
In the end, discrimination (either to dark-skinned Muslims by the "right" or to white-skinned Christians by the "left") is always hidden below a screen of respectability.
In my opinion, the discrimination against white-skinned Christians is even "worse", since it is State sponsored discrimination, by legal means. The other discrimination, being also awful, is not undertaken by the State, but by individuals, so the State can penalize these discriminations, eventually. But State discriminations will never be penalized. They just become normal practice.